Shall hopefully take a look at some of my old school books to refresh my mind before I go back to studying sometime next year hopefully.
Also trying to build up strength in my back at physiotherapy, and also deciding, if worst comes to worst, getting help from a pain specialist to handle whatever comes my way in life.

My life's been a rollercoaster for the past year or so, what with trying to balance school with friends and video games... I've always been really lazy, but it's been getting a lot worse as of recently. It (as well as my growing negativity) has been causing me trouble in school as well as in my social life, and I've had enough of living a life of constant discouragement.

As for what I'm doing:
I've worked my ass off in school for the past few months in order to secure my graduation this year.
I'm trying to get out of the house more.
I am spending time enjoying long walks.
I've been trying to spend more time with the friends I do have.
I've stopped lying to myself and denying my faults.
I'm finding less and less motivation to play video games (not really an improvement on my part, but hey, at least it means I'll be playing less).
I'm encouraging myself to be a more positive person in general.

There's not really anything happening during the summer though, and I'm still waiting for my exam results so I can find out where I'm going next year. But I am planning on continuing to make an effort to become a better, more likeable person once summer ends. There's nothing to do at this point but look forward, and it'll be refreshing to start anew.

I'm really glad to hear that all of you have not only taken the dedication to improve but the results have been so positive! I read all of these posts and it really makes me feel good to know that one post can cause so many to leave their comfort zone share their faults and work hard to fix them! Keep posting and never give up

It's not so much what have I done lately to better myself but it's what I could start doing to better myself, which didn't take place until last month

For starters I could go for cutting myself some slack. When I know I can do a lot better than what I currently can (Say if I fall a little bit short on a goal), I tend to beat myself up over it, especially if my other friends seemingly are doing progressively better in their lives than what I feel I am with my own.

So I need to not worry about what others are doing and focus more on not beating myself up on every little thing. Adding that to the fact that I overworry too much and I have a very short temper at the worst times and you have a laundry list of things to improve on.

But what have I done LATELY was trying to do the "impossible". Visiting Agnes was the first step as it was something I've always wanted to do since we first built a history together many years ago. Something that a lot of people I knew in real life said that "It just wasn't possible". The fact that I was able to draw the bridge closer between us showed me that when I set my mind to something, it can get done, even if it's something that I never imagined could happen in my wildest dreams.

So what I've done lately is think about my future and how I can achieve it with not only my own hands and of course with the help of others who are there to lend a helping hand. All this time I thought I could do things on my own and yet my visit to Agnes showed me that I really wasn't alone. I'm now realizing that I'm not alone in my struggle

Killha wrote: 1ok2p

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I'm really glad all this has worked out for you. I have noticed the difference and I hope you meet your goals!

Well I guess I may as well give a small update for myself. Over the past few days since i really started this I have been focusing hard on my anger, and gladly I have gone this entire week without getting frustrated, mad, or angry at a single thing. It's not 100% where I want it to be yet, but the progress is being made and I feel great because of it. This makes me even more determined to get it all taken care of!

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whoa I'm glad to have this kind of thread on here. I hope people can accept themselves more by itting and confessing things, and then really work themselves to turn to be much much better than before. goodluck for all of us in the whole world. c:

Lately, I've been having a lot of depression and stress. Why I haven't came to osu! to just sit down and relax by mapping and/or playing, I instead suffered greatly to reboot my computer atleast 15 times this week, fix a couple friendships, and play games with people on a limited basis.

Fortunately, what I did do today about 10 hours ago was was go outside, breath in, walk around, pick a couple flowers, walk back to my house, sit on the front porch, and star at the gazing sky. The night stars remind me distant goals in my life to reach out, and more became to appear, therefore, there would be more goals to set in life. I went back in, sat back down, and decided to think about what I wanted to do with my life. Being lonely really did help me go through depression better imo, and it helped me get rid of the problems I had a lot faster.

@Coldtooh, depression and stress are hard to get over but not impossible, I think that setting goals for yourself is a good step in the right direction and I hope you are able to fight and push forward to get rid of it!

@Greeeenpanda It's all good! Sometimes you just need to rant to really realize what changes you need to make to yourself. It sounds like you have an idea of what you want done now is just the time to start planning out how you will take action.

Good luck to you both!

woop woop long post time

Recently, and over time for a while, I've been having random attacks of depression, anxiety, and being extremely stressed out. I am very likely manic depressive, seeing as my mother also is. Often, I am told to try and get recommended for medication, but I cannot take it due to my size (I am barely within the minimum weight requirements) and because medications often have negative effects on me. I haven't had much motivation to do things that I enjoy, and doing most of them don't satisfy me anymore. Also, I feel like my depression has driven me away from my friends. People I once enjoyed talking with I now worry about annoying them with my problems and depression. Most of the time I don't even know what I'm depressed over, I have no reasons to be depressed, but I am.
Any times in the past I have wanted to better myself, I had never fully gone through with it. I was always either told I was doing it wrong or that I shouldn't do it because I wouldn't be me anymore. But why would they want me to still be depressed?
Jaka making this thread, and getting to talk to him personally, made me want to go through with changing myself for the better. First, I want to get back to doing more things I enjoy, the main thing of this being drawing. I want to complete at least 1-2 pieces per week to keep me motivated with my work, so expect to be seeing more from me in the art thread! Since I want to do more that I enjoy, I want to practice more with my singing. I want to some of it, so I'll be making a SoundCloud to keep my stuff in.
Something that I feel will also help with my depression, altho it's prolly really dumb, is getting to meet my boyfriend irl. I have never actually been with someone irl before. My stepbro wants to help me with this, so I hope he keeps to it. If he stays to it, he wants to do this for me every month or every other month.

Kyonko Hizara wrote: lk4g

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I'm very glad for you Kyonko, I have known you for a while and have seen you when you are depressed. I never wish that on any of my friends and I hope being able to see your boyfriend really does help you!

I finally left the house.

Diagram wrote: 1w4r1s

I finally left the house.

That's always a good improvement! I am doing the same here within the next month or 2 Hope you enjoy your new life out of the house!

Already making improvements~ I have 4 different art pieces I'm working on. I also made a SoundCloud to any of my singing on, I haven't ed anything yet, but will be soon.

Another thing I've done that I've wanted to do is get back into playing osu!. So far it's been really enjoyable, so I want to see how it goes. Playing keeps me busy and I used it in the past to keep my mind off things.

Kyonko Hizara wrote: lk4g

Already making improvements~ I have 4 different art pieces I'm working on. I also made a SoundCloud to any of my singing on, I haven't ed anything yet, but will be soon.

Another thing I've done that I've wanted to do is get back into playing osu!. So far it's been really enjoyable, so I want to see how it goes. Playing keeps me busy and I used it in the past to keep my mind off things.

I'm glad to see you back in the game and glad you are taking steps to get your mind off things and give yourself projects to do!

As for me I have finally taken control of my anger and have started working on my jealousy which I have made big steps on already. I will continue to do so to reach the goal I have set for myself!

As a new step as well. If anyone is too nervous to post publicly you are more than welcome to PM me. I would be glad to give you some advice or just a person to talk to if it would help! I will be posting this on the original post as well.

lol, sure, I'll do this

for the past few months I've been absolutely screwed emotionally. I lost about all of my irl friends in a big misunderstanding that basically tore the universe apart and had to reevaluate basically everything that I was doing.

it's pretty weird, but I've stayed with the same friends basically for the past 10 years. irl, anyways. so when this shit happened it really tore me apart. I ended up doing a ton of things to try and get around it, went to massive amounts of therapy for a few months (well, for that reason and others), ended up trying to make an entire new friend base only to realize that they were just as corrupted as everybody else.. even basically ended up sucking myself into osu! even more completely than I was around that time a year before.

then I finally quit therapy and started writing diaries instead. which for some reason works better.

after like, 6 months of this, I finally stopped trying to run away from everything and started to face it. I went back through to a bunch of people that left like that and apologized for a bunch of stuff in an attempt to get them back, and for the most part it worked. hell, my best friend even came back a few days ago (ironically enough he was the one who started most of it) and we got really emotional for a bit getting back on good with each other.

but there's no way I would've been able to do this without the people online to help me through all of this; everybody who's stood through with me through me being an awful person, mes constantly, making constant mistakes and tearing up not only my own friendships but friendships of others.

so what really I've done to better myself was a bunch of different things - I finally came to realization and agreement that online friends are just as good as real life friends, and it took me way more years to realize this than I should have. any friend is a friend, and everybody should be treated the same, regardless of where they exist on. even if they're thousands of miles away from you, emotions travel over the internet just as much as they do face to face.

and on top of that, mostly, I learned to respect myself. after being told it tons of different times from all of the people that took my burdens and listened to me complain for hours on end, I realized I was worth something and I've become a massively better person because of it.

so to everybody, if you're reading this and were a part of my life in the past few months in some way shape or form and you at least talked to me and tried to make me feel better at any point; EVEN IF you weren't even aware that I haven't been totally happy - thank you. from the bottom of my heart. you are the reason why I've become a better person today. without all of the people that held my hand through all of the bullshit that I caused myself, I might've broken.

and to everybody who doesn't know me, or is just reading this out there and feels the same way that I did at one point or another; you too, are important. you're worth something to somebody, regardless of how bad they treat you, how much people might put you down, there's always a part in everybody's hearts regardless of how they feel that has some good in it and although they might not show it, you matter to them somehow. and of course, the people that live away and have never even spoken a word to you in your life - there are people out there that you've never even spoken to that might ire you from afar and think you're the greatest person in existance. everybody, everybody has at least one of these people. I promise.

keep trying, because one day it's going to pay off. don't let people toss you around and put you down like you don't matter, because you do.

so, gd, this is my long essay on how I've become a better person. my entire life changed in 6 months, and now I can say finally that I'm more proud of who I am than ever before in my life.

I literally just vented out my entire life on a board on a circle clicking game

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Maeglwn wrote: 164y5v

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ilu2 you wonderful person

I've kinda always been slow with just about everything compared to everyone else and it's been a burden on myself and everyone around me for a long time, but I'm trying to catch up and get my life to where it should be at my age. I'm that kind of person that is incredibly lazy, but more because I operate on momentum. It's very difficult for me to start things, but it's also very difficult for me to stop things unless I can transition into something similar. A lot of these things aren't really recent per se, but it's close enough to be relevant.

I dropped out of college after two years due to my own incompatibility with the entire education system. It had been completely obvious to me that continuing with that would never have been beneficial in the end, despite my parents trying their damned hardest to persuade me away. Shortly after, I got a job at a grocery store (primarily to start paying on the student loan bills) and have been focusing almost entirely on making sure my coworkers and managers have as positive an opinion as possible about me. Primarily, I've been trying to improve communication in my department and become a that people can rely on since... our department is notorious for having people leave or get forcibly kicked out within two months of them ing. One side effect of working here is that I'm also actually gaining social skills since I never talked to anyone during high school.

I'm also working on finally getting a driver's license so I don't have to drown in my own sweat when walking to and from work anymore, and also so that I have a lot more freedom in where I can get a job in the future. Pretty much all of this should've been done once I was out of high school (no way it was ever happening during high school or I would never have graduated).

I'm also trying to work more on writing, since I plan on eventually becoming a full time writer and have too many ideas in my head to just keep them there. Motivation is getting difficult to come by, though...

CalignoBot wrote: 304v5n

I've kinda always been slow with just about everything compared to everyone else and it's been a burden on myself and everyone around me for a long time, but I'm trying to catch up and get my life to where it should be at my age. I'm that kind of person that is incredibly lazy, but more because I operate on momentum. It's very difficult for me to start things, but it's also very difficult for me to stop things unless I can transition into something similar. A lot of these things aren't really recent per se, but it's close enough to be relevant.

I dropped out of college after two years due to my own incompatibility with the entire education system. It had been completely obvious to me that continuing with that would never have been beneficial in the end, despite my parents trying their damned hardest to persuade me away. Shortly after, I got a job at a grocery store (primarily to start paying on the student loan bills) and have been focusing almost entirely on making sure my coworkers and managers have as positive an opinion as possible about me. Primarily, I've been trying to improve communication in my department and become a that people can rely on since... our department is notorious for having people leave or get forcibly kicked out within two months of them ing. One side effect of working here is that I'm also actually gaining social skills since I never talked to anyone during high school.

I'm also working on finally getting a driver's license so I don't have to drown in my own sweat when walking to and from work anymore, and also so that I have a lot more freedom in where I can get a job in the future. Pretty much all of this should've been done once I was out of high school (no way it was ever happening during high school or I would never have graduated).

I'm also trying to work more on writing, since I plan on eventually becoming a full time writer and have too many ideas in my head to just keep them there. Motivation is getting difficult to come by, though...

writing is the hardest thing to motivate yourself to do without outside help

so don't be afraid to ask people to go over your work and stuff

goodf or you though :3

I studied for my drivers license and I'm taking it tomorrow! ( For moped / 50cc motorcycle )
+ I went outside

I'm really glad for anyone who has taken this thread as it should be. It's great to see all of you improving and I only wish you the best in your future. My situation has gotten much better but I am still going to continue working hard to fix all of my problems and I hope to hear updates from all of you!

Stay strong!

Earlier this year, as I was graduating, I was thinking about how completely screwed I was. I've waited too long to befriend anyone and they all got into their little groups, which just left me by myself with friends I've never seen that live hundreds of kilometers away. I was thinking that once I enter college, I would just be all by myself without an opportunity to meet anyone, I was also degrading myself constantly and sometimes just broke down crying hugging my dogs wondering why.

Now I've got a job and optimism, I value the little I have instead of wishing for things, I look up to people instead of telling myself they're better than me, I'm not scared of being left alone with my thoughts anymore and I'm going to try to meet new people instead of avoiding them.
Now all I need to do is some exercise and i'm all set.

I stopped trying to kill people 2-3 years ago, but I still have issues with seeing living things as... living things I guess, but then again it's not like I get treated as a living thing outside of the internet.
Having spent years in what I see as isolation because of our mother hijacking our house might be one of the causes of my disregard of life, I just sit in my room all day with almost no natural light/sound and with my laptop because I distrust everyone and everything. That distrust might also be caused because every time I trusted anyone I ended up in a not so pleasant experience(for example brain damage after getting stones thrown to the back of the head or getting barraged by ice balls with stones in them... also aiming for the head)

May I also say that spewing stuff like this out is harder in front of a psychologist than it is to write it down on these forums but I did do it.

So here is what I did to feel less terrible about myself and to be less of a danger to others.
1. Stop trying to choke people to death.
2. Make myself feel better(might sound selfish but eh at least I can think about myself without wanting to blow my brains out now.
3. keep myself away from sharp objects for as long as I don't need them... because out of sight is out of mind.
4. Seek help... my psychologists might be idiots because they just bring up the bad memories each time I talk to them, but they try(I also need them because I do not like... this body).

Blame kyonko's skype status for making me check the forums.

I also left a lot of info out of this text because it simply is too much to write down.

Sorry if my 'essay' comes off as really unorganized, but I'm not a very good writer. Anyways, the past year has been my most productive as far as self improvement goes. The biggest thing that happened to me was probably entering online school. Besides the fact that I'm inside the house more often, it's been nothing but improvements. Public school was just not for me. My grades were horrible. 1 A, rest D's and F's. Not to come off as pompous, but I knew that it wasn't entirely my fault, my classmates were just idiots really. They goofed around, forcing the teacher to have to stop teaching, and the teachers had no backbones, they would never kick them out or anything. So as a result I and anybody who wanted to learn never learned, and all of us got bad grades. By near the end of the year I got into online school, a complete 180. A's and B's.

But, I did get lazy. No working out, sitting on the seat all day. Up until 2 days ago I failed to realize that a huge part of my laziness and not doing anything was because I cared too much about what other thought/said. I stopped playing online games all together, which was really my only with any other human beings. I stopped talking to people period. My friends would come over and try to get me to go outside, but I wasn't interested at all. Thanks to some guidance I got from (mostly) myself, I began to turn it around. I already didn't eat chips or anything like that, but my diet was and still is pretty bad. Hotpockets... Pizza... Healthy food is off my radar, so I have to fix that.

Anyways, back to me turning myself around. A huge amount of my enjoyment and happiness was cut off because I was scared that other people would not like what I did, or said, or thought, or anything. That's anxiety I was dealing with for the past 3-4 years. Tbh, I'm kinda disappointing in myself that it took me so long to realize that I need to do what I want to do and not care what other thought unless need be. But hey, it could be worse. Besides all that, I think I should close this post, didn't exactly intend to drag it on for this many paragraphs, but there was nobody for me to talk to this about, as I'm not very good with face to face communication anyways.

To close this post off, I guess I'll list things that I've done to improve myself I guess. Even now I don't feel like posting this cause Idk what others will think, but I'm already several paragraphs in, so here goes nothing.
1) Entered online school (I'm sure it's not for everyone, but this was the best decision I made for my education yet.)
2) Started to look at myself more (There's a lot of things I didn't exactly know about myself that I've been learning recently, for example that thing I listed one paragraph up)
3) Started exercising again.
4) Trying out new things.

That's actually amazing. I especially value the nr. 4) - Sometimes you just have to say 'yes' to everything you get invited to and however boring it might appear, it is always better than doing the same in same out stuff in front of your computer or TV or whatever. + Who knows, within these things that you go to, there might be your hidden ion waiting for you.


As for me:
I'm introverted by nature and was always addicted to video games and anime. I had (and still kinda have - became much better though) horrible social skills and I have always been plagued by speech jamming since my language skills aren't so good (My parents are chinese and I grew up learning their horrible german).
Fast forward, I enjoy going outside on my own now and I've kinda started getting out of my comfort zone, doing funny things in public, making people laugh by being random (like dancing in public or taking strangerselfies and all the weird stuff) and it's really awesome to see and meet new people.

I've also stopped fapping and watching porn, the biggest hurdle of any male in the internet age. It dulls your mind, makes you socially impotenter and generally stops you from speaking to girls since you can always go back to your fap cave and jack one off after a bad day.

For my 3rd point - I started sleeping in 1,5hr cycles which reduces my sleeping time to 7,5 or even 6 hrs, with 1-2 20 minute naps over the day. It not only prevents you from oversleeping and missing half of the day 'coz u slept 11 hours, it also stops you from being tired (duh) by sleeping either too short or too long. I could send links if you really want to see a source.

4th: Started eating better. Not necessarily very healthy, but better. Still eat more fried than baked, but at least it's only meat. Sweets and Snacks are nailed down to nuts and fruit only. Vegetables twice a day ofc and my drinks have been narrowed down to water and orange juice.

I also take more care to have a good posture, be open and smile more. My language skills still suck but at least I look confident while shouting grammatically wrong stuff!


My biggest problem: I still don't exercise as much as I should. In fact, I don't - at all. I feel the only way to build muscle is workout either at home or the gym and I did that for 7 weeks, until my class trip came up - I ate shit and garbage, had fun but still ate shit - and now I'm back to status quo and a lazy couch potatoe doing nothing that improves my physique since my motivation went down, but most importantly my commitment has faded now. I'm 16 now so ing a sports club might be somewhat awkward too since I'm kinda too old for ing a sports club now, am I. (volleyball)
There's a little mountain of bobble building in my stomach area and my face has always been round and fat-looking, which I HATE!!

Well, thanks for this thread JAKACHAN, kind of helps venting when you write down some stuff that's on your mind. Also, keep fighting everyone!


PS: I also only take cold showers now - improves your immune system, is much more comfortable for your body in the summer, literally cools your mind, makes you feel like a man, weakens your libido (urge to masturbate) and is much better for your skin & hair.

It's great that all of you have the bravery to post all of this stuff on a public thread. itting these faults to people who can be complete strangers is never easy but I feel as if it really helps build your confidence and motivation to change yourself. I really hope this thread stays alive so I can continue to see all the changes people are making and even updates from those who have posted before!

As for myself I have gotten rid of the negativity brought on from my jealousy and I have come in control with my anger!

Keep fighting everyone!

Magihoenix wrote: 4725l

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That's actually amazing. I especially value the nr. 4) - Sometimes you just have to say 'yes' to everything you get invited to and however boring it might appear, it is always better than doing the same in same out stuff in front of your computer or TV or whatever. + Who knows, within these things that you go to, there might be your hidden ion waiting for you.


As for me:
I'm introverted by nature and was always addicted to video games and anime. I had (and still kinda have - became much better though) horrible social skills and I have always been plagued by speech jamming since my language skills aren't so good (My parents are chinese and I grew up learning their horrible german).
Fast forward, I enjoy going outside on my own now and I've kinda started getting out of my comfort zone, doing funny things in public, making people laugh by being random (like dancing in public or taking strangerselfies and all the weird stuff) and it's really awesome to see and meet new people.

I've also stopped fapping and watching porn, the biggest hurdle of any male in the internet age. It dulls your mind, makes you socially impotenter and generally stops you from speaking to girls since you can always go back to your fap cave and jack one off after a bad day.

For my 3rd point - I started sleeping in 1,5hr cycles which reduces my sleeping time to 7,5 or even 6 hrs, with 1-2 20 minute naps over the day. It not only prevents you from oversleeping and missing half of the day 'coz u slept 11 hours, it also stops you from being tired (duh) by sleeping either too short or too long. I could send links if you really want to see a source.

4th: Started eating better. Not necessarily very healthy, but better. Still eat more fried than baked, but at least it's only meat. Sweets and Snacks are nailed down to nuts and fruit only. Vegetables twice a day ofc and my drinks have been narrowed down to water and orange juice.

I also take more care to have a good posture, be open and smile more. My language skills still suck but at least I look confident while shouting grammatically wrong stuff!


My biggest problem: I still don't exercise as much as I should. In fact, I don't - at all. I feel the only way to build muscle is workout either at home or the gym and I did that for 7 weeks, until my class trip came up - I ate shit and garbage, had fun but still ate shit - and now I'm back to status quo and a lazy couch potatoe doing nothing that improves my physique since my motivation went down, but most importantly my commitment has faded now. I'm 16 now so ing a sports club might be somewhat awkward too since I'm kinda too old for ing a sports club now, am I. (volleyball)
There's a little mountain of bobble building in my stomach area and my face has always been round and fat-looking, which I HATE!!

Well, thanks for this thread JAKACHAN, kind of helps venting when you write down some stuff that's on your mind. Also, keep fighting everyone!


PS: I also only take cold showers now - improves your immune system, is much more comfortable for your body in the summer, literally cools your mind, makes you feel like a man, weakens your libido (urge to masturbate) and is much better for your skin & hair.

I've been dealing with abstaining from fapping for over a year now, pretty daunting commitment, but I keep going because I know it will be worth it, from past experiences. I've been interested in changing my sleep cycles for a few weeks now but I "never got around to it". I wouldn't mind links if you want to send them.

Slip wrote: 123u63

I've been dealing with abstaining from fapping for over a year now, pretty daunting commitment, but I keep going because I know it will be worth it, from past experiences. I've been interested in changing my sleep cycles for a few weeks now but I "never got around to it". I wouldn't mind links if you want to send them.

If you want to keep yourself the most alert and not have to deal with that drowsy feeling then you can always check out this site.

http://sleepyti.me/

Just put when you want to wake up and it will give you all the times you can sleep at with the best few as well highlighted a different color!

JAKACHAN wrote: 701g2l

If you want to keep yourself the most alert and not have to deal with that drowsy feeling then you can always check out this site.

http://sleepyti.me/

Just put when you want to wake up and it will give you all the times you can sleep at with the best few as well highlighted a different color!

Hey, I use this website!
...But for me, I still don't get enough sleep and end up waking up within one of the greyed times, which only gets me awake enough to last me a couple of hours (I really need to work on getting more sleep). It does help a bit with waking up in the morning though.

I took a break from osu! just to return to get silenced for 2 weeks right away, for no reason. That means I was gone for about a month in total. I realized a few things during that time.

1. People suck. A lot.
2. osu! people suck even more, like holy fuck. Most of you guys have no idea about the sense of rationality.
3. People are really shallow, and tend to pretend shit that don't really matter to them a single bit.
4. I have things to do. Like serious things that will help me get better at life.

Things to do include mainly having to focus more on school and less on people. A small step for a person like me, easily overcomeable, when school continues. Even if I did want to spend time with people, I would need to make sure that they are worth my time. Which is really tough, considering that I only know osu! people (NEDM is cool though). At least I have a few IRL friends.

I've spent time watching movies, even playing video games which is something completely new to me aside from Pokémon and Spyro. That's actually fun. I've spent time outdoors, hanging out at the beach, taking random walks and bus/train trips to nowhere. I've even found my motivation in making music again, and oh boy is that stuff delightful and refreshing. I've also slept a lot, escaping reality is another fun hobby of mine. ASMR videos have helped me a lot with seeing mostly good dreams.

Elliott Hulse's videos have become really helpful with managing my mindset and so on, there's some really good ideas I will, I HAVE TO adapt to my life in the future. I don't want to end up depressed, compliant, bound to fucking unnecessary things that will do shit for me. "Be an egomaniac!" - Elliott Hulse, 2014

So yeah, anyway, I'm leaving the city in 6 days, which means a lot of more good things for me for another week. I need to get my shit together before school starts, and continue keeping my shit together when the school starts. Shouldn't be tough, considering that I will have to do this, and it's my last 1,5 years coming up next - mainly easy subjects, and the interesting ones. Also Swedish, but who cares.

Static Noise Bird wrote: 5z675c

I took a break from osu! just to return to get silenced for 2 weeks right away, for no reason. That means I was gone for about a month in total. I realized a few things during that time.

1. People suck. A lot.
2. osu! people suck even more, like holy fuck. Most of you guys have no idea about the sense of rationality.
3. People are really shallow, and tend to pretend shit that don't really matter to them a single bit.
4. I have things to do. Like serious things that will help me get better at life.

Things to do include mainly having to focus more on school and less on people. A small step for a person like me, easily overcomeable, when school continues. Even if I did want to spend time with people, I would need to make sure that they are worth my time. Which is really tough, considering that I only know osu! people (NEDM is cool though). At least I have a few IRL friends.

I've spent time watching movies, even playing video games which is something completely new to me aside from Pokémon and Spyro. That's actually fun. I've spent time outdoors, hanging out at the beach, taking random walks and bus/train trips to nowhere. I've even found my motivation in making music again, and oh boy is that stuff delightful and refreshing. I've also slept a lot, escaping reality is another fun hobby of mine. ASMR videos have helped me a lot with seeing mostly good dreams.

Elliott Hulse's videos have become really helpful with managing my mindset and so on, there's some really good ideas I will, I HAVE TO adapt to my life in the future. I don't want to end up depressed, compliant, bound to fucking unnecessary things that will do shit for me. "Be an egomaniac!" - Elliott Hulse, 2014

So yeah, anyway, I'm leaving the city in 6 days, which means a lot of more good things for me for another week. I need to get my shit together before school starts, and continue keeping my shit together when the school starts. Shouldn't be tough, considering that I will have to do this, and it's my last 1,5 years coming up next - mainly easy subjects, and the interesting ones. Also Swedish, but who cares.

I'm really glad you have begun these changes. I feel like this is a step in the right direction for you and I encourage you to continue pursuing these changes as long as they continue to make you feel better.

There are people who can be really nasty in this world and I feel like it's better to associate yourself with even just one good person compared to being surrounded by 100 nasty people who don't honestly give a shit.

Keep fighting bud, you can do it.

Read this forum

I haven't been on a forum in a while, so forgive me if I'm not proper enough or too proper, but I've made some changes over the past year (or maybe two) that I don't mind sharing. c:

Like many others on the Internet, I am fairly shy, and I decided to stop letting it hold me back. I was never a shy or quiet person when I was younger, but I was bullied in elementary school which caused me to lose a lot of my confidence (appearance, abilities, etc.). All of the friends that I had when I was younger have always hurt me in one way or another, so I grew fairly untrusting of others. Thankfully I transferred schools in 7th grade and the bullying stopped, but I was still very insecure and afraid of people. I even made a very good friend who is still my best friend to this day. In high school, my shyness hindered me a lot. I made some friends, but I always cared so much of what others thought of me and it made me really depressed. A lot of it was by my own means, but I slowly realized that people's opinions of me shouldn't matter and they shouldn't affect my mood. I started to be myself instead of trying to "fit in" (which I wasn't particularly good at, anyways). I'm still pretty quiet and I don't talk unless I have something meaningful to say, but I don't hold back nearly as much as I used to and I am very content with the progress that I made. I'm a much happier person because of it! It took away 90% of my depression (and I'm sure the remaining 10% is just part of being a teenage girl).

In addition to that, I improved my grades drastically. When I was really young, I always excelled in school and did my best, but around the time I started to get bullied, my grades reflected how I was feeling. Unfortunately my grades were still pretty low in my freshman year of high school, but I can proudly say that I ended junior year with all A's.

My last thing is something I'm still working on, and it's finding a balance between being a kind person and being able to stand up for myself. I've gone through phases where I'm either way too nice and get pushed around, or I try standing up for myself but go too far and come off as overly-aggressive. It's hard to find a balance, but I've been trying to over the past two years and I think I'm slowly getting there. I want to be the best person that I can be, and I consider myself to be very open-hearted and understanding, but sometimes people take advantage of me and when I try to defend myself, I go too far. I want to be seen as a positive person, but I don't want people to think that they can treat me however they please.

Finally, I've tried to be more open with making new friendships and maintaining with old friends too. I'm a lot better at doing it online than in the real world, but I think that doing it online enables me to do it more easily when the time comes to do so in real life. I go to an all-girls school with 600 students, so I don't really have that many opportunities to make new friends (everyone already knows everyone and they know whether or not they want to be your friend) but I'd like to be a more sociable person in college, so I'm practicing. I've also found that I end up with one close friend, and I get attached, then if we get into an argument or something I become completely emotionally wrecked. I'm working on trying to have multiple close friends rather than one person to rely on, because for myself I don't feel that it is a healthy behavior.

Writing about this helped a lot! It made me realize how much progress I've made and how much I've yet to do. c: Thanks for reading, and I wish everyone the best of luck in improving themselves through whatever means necessary.

JAKACHAN wrote: 701g2l

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Thanks, much appreciated .

Lyvarna wrote: 213l24

SPOILER

I haven't been on a forum in a while, so forgive me if I'm not proper enough or too proper, but I've made some changes over the past year (or maybe two) that I don't mind sharing. c:

Like many others on the Internet, I am fairly shy, and I decided to stop letting it hold me back. I was never a shy or quiet person when I was younger, but I was bullied in elementary school which caused me to lose a lot of my confidence (appearance, abilities, etc.). All of the friends that I had when I was younger have always hurt me in one way or another, so I grew fairly untrusting of others. Thankfully I transferred schools in 7th grade and the bullying stopped, but I was still very insecure and afraid of people. I even made a very good friend who is still my best friend to this day. In high school, my shyness hindered me a lot. I made some friends, but I always cared so much of what others thought of me and it made me really depressed. A lot of it was by my own means, but I slowly realized that people's opinions of me shouldn't matter and they shouldn't affect my mood. I started to be myself instead of trying to "fit in" (which I wasn't particularly good at, anyways). I'm still pretty quiet and I don't talk unless I have something meaningful to say, but I don't hold back nearly as much as I used to and I am very content with the progress that I made. I'm a much happier person because of it! It took away 90% of my depression (and I'm sure the remaining 10% is just part of being a teenage girl).

In addition to that, I improved my grades drastically. When I was really young, I always excelled in school and did my best, but around the time I started to get bullied, my grades reflected how I was feeling. Unfortunately my grades were still pretty low in my freshman year of high school, but I can proudly say that I ended junior year with all A's.

My last thing is something I'm still working on, and it's finding a balance between being a kind person and being able to stand up for myself. I've gone through phases where I'm either way too nice and get pushed around, or I try standing up for myself but go too far and come off as overly-aggressive. It's hard to find a balance, but I've been trying to over the past two years and I think I'm slowly getting there. I want to be the best person that I can be, and I consider myself to be very open-hearted and understanding, but sometimes people take advantage of me and when I try to defend myself, I go too far. I want to be seen as a positive person, but I don't want people to think that they can treat me however they please.

Finally, I've tried to be more open with making new friendships and maintaining with old friends too. I'm a lot better at doing it online than in the real world, but I think that doing it online enables me to do it more easily when the time comes to do so in real life. I go to an all-girls school with 600 students, so I don't really have that many opportunities to make new friends (everyone already knows everyone and they know whether or not they want to be your friend) but I'd like to be a more sociable person in college, so I'm practicing. I've also found that I end up with one close friend, and I get attached, then if we get into an argument or something I become completely emotionally wrecked. I'm working on trying to have multiple close friends rather than one person to rely on, because for myself I don't feel that it is a healthy behavior.

Writing about this helped a lot! It made me realize how much progress I've made and how much I've yet to do. c: Thanks for reading, and I wish everyone the best of luck in improving themselves through whatever means necessary.

Yeah, shyness and bullying sucks. Good thing time usually heals stuff like that.

After taking a long drive to relax I realized today that my girlfriend leaving me was not the worst thing that could happen. Losing her is what really kicked me into overdrive to change all these negative aspects of myself. I do miss her and I still hope that one day I can see her again and maybe we can give it another shot, but I will continue to improve upon my changes and begin other things to really steer my life in the right direction. The only difference now is my goal is to be able to see her once again and that's what will motivate me to continue improving.

All I need to do is stay positive and hopefully life will work out well!

Gumpyyy wrote: 2f3i

Read this forum

and the fact that all these posts in this topic makes me think of what I need to do to better myself ~

Little update for myself:

Went to the doctor today and was prescribed something that should help me with my running mind and anger even more. Will start it today, but it wont kick in for a few days to a week. I'm hoping for the best but we will see how it goes!

Let's try pinning this for a while.

I decided to focus on just one thing per day. What can I do today that will improve my wellbeing in the future? Today I'm eating clean. Good, healthy, nutritious food. That's it. The length of my commitment: 24 hours. Tomorrow, who knows! Maybe a shower long enough to drain all the hot water out the tank. ahhh.. Anyhow, that's tomorrow.

I'd like to hear what others have done for themselves today. One new thing please, that you don't usually do, but would improve your future if you did.

How about... stop looking up forums and get to bed at a reasonable hour.

I want some in 24 hrs as to how you all went or now if you've already done something new and different. Let me know...

I recently got the courage and the will to fight for my goals and focus on the things i want to realize irl
i have been working out on me and on my problems since last year and this changed me a lot specially communicative wise
i used to be and i still am quite the introvert person from a few ages back, it all started when i quit high school because i couldn't take it anymore
might sound hard to believe but i had a depression when i was around 16/17 and i gave up on everything, until now i wasn't able to completely back up from it,i just found it impossible and summing it up up with real /online drama it made everything even worse for me so i was unable to completely fix it.
I still am on the track,there is times i fall down and quite hard sometimes tho i have learned to stand up and walk again on that road and one of the most important things that someone thought me is to share the burden as in allowing someone else carry a bit of the heavy weight that's on shoulders and trust me..this helped me a ton and i am glad i got to realize that.

so things said i applied to a vocational school where i will be finishing my remaining high school years (which is 3) by doing what i love the most which is digital art and i couldn't be more excited about it and its just mind blown for close people and myself,which is actually good!
isn't that a great feeling to have in the end of the day,right?just the fact that i was able to call to the school sign up and actually go there..its a big time boost up for the person that i am and gladly i am going to continue walking and realize my dreams because life is short and you need to live it even if you think that no one is there for you,no one cares yet there is always someone who does and wishes you well in life,so im doing that for myself..my grandparents and mom which have been there for me since i was a peanut sized human and someone really special in osu! who has been ing me even way before knowing me well.

im sorry guys for the long novel but i hope even if its a small wish of mine and im being able to realize it im sure you can also do it,just don't give up and keep on walking even if its to much of a ''mainstream word'' that everyone listens to but as soon as you apply that into your mind,it will make a big time difference

side note
i went through a lot of issues i was actually indirectly called dumb/stupid because i didn't finished my high school but hey look i am a smart and willing person even without the proper school education, yet i was well raised and like Einstein (in case you even know who that sir was) he wasn't either the greatest mathematician/ Physicist or had a great school education yet he turned out to be the best scientist in the surface of this planet. And to you who is going to ''university'',having that kind of behavior wont either get you anywhere just proves how stupid you are for making fun of people that has larger issues then you.

I usually make excuses to myself to avoid any social interaction for some reason like finishing homework, too tired to talk etc.. So I've been trying to force myself to talk to people even if I don't want to. (Unless I hate them)

In general removing myself from toxic situations and environments and trying to pursue what I actually want to pursue instead of settling with what other people expect of me.

Translation: quitting my job and more actively pursuing my music.

Started to run with ankle weights and just the weights that you hold to hope i could get faster and stronger.
I'm not in track or anything, just its one of those things that would kind of help you in the long run.

Quit League.

I lost loads of weight

I've been doing long wig projects to keep myself doing something and not sitting all day. I really want to make more wigs so that I can get my shop more known, so I've been doing this big project to really show the skill that I have with it.

ztrot wrote: x6k62

I lost loads of weight

sooooo...pics pls? :U

I've been making a few of my projects fully automated so I have more time to kick back and relax a little. Feels so much better rather than being stressed to brink of a breakdown every day.

My family has been worried about me, since im always in front of the computer playing video game and watching anime.
They are always saying the same thing over and over again like
Ex. ' You should go outside the weather is great. and ' you should socialize yourself more'
I cant blame them cuz they are right.

As a person iam shy and quiet. This is probly cuz of my speech disorder (stuttering) and Social anxiety disorder (SAD). In high school i got bullied a lot bcuz of my speech disorder, which also lowered my selfconfidence. I hated reading out loud for the class because my classmates, were grining and trying hard not to laugh out loud.
But i had a couple of good freinds, who were backing me up during that hard time.

My parents suggested that i should go to a private school this year, because its less students and the teachers care more.

Im also going to speak with a speech therapist soo that i stutter less and can build up my selfconfidence.
Im trying to get out of the house more
Im trying to use my computer and cell phone less now
Im going to bed earlier
Im going to be more social
Im less lazy then b4 and i started exercising

Started revising, and basically strive for higher goals.

kynolenkun wrote: 4r5b4

Started to run with ankle weights and just the weights that you hold to hope i could get faster and stronger.
I'm not in track or anything, just its one of those things that would kind of help you in the long run.

>Help you in the long run.

That double entendre tho.

Is it not painful to wear weights around your ankles when you run? I feel as if I would injure myself if I tried to do that while jogging.

KazmiSain wrote: 5a614g

My family has been worried about me, since im always in front of the computer playing video game and watching anime.
They are always saying the same thing over and over again like
Ex. ' You should go outside the weather is great. and ' you should socialize yourself more'
I cant blame them cuz they are right.

As a person iam shy and quiet. This is probly cuz of my speech disorder (stuttering) and Social anxiety disorder (SAD). In high school i got bullied a lot bcuz of my speech disorder, which also lowered my selfconfidence. I hated reading out loud for the class because my classmates, were grining and trying hard not to laugh out loud.
But i had a couple of good freinds, who were backing me up during that hard time.

My parents suggested that i should go to a private school this year, because its less students and the teachers care more.

Im also going to speak with a speech therapist soo that i stutter less and can build up my selfconfidence.
Im trying to get out of the house more
Im trying to use my computer and cell phone less now
Im going to bed earlier
Im going to be more social
Im less lazy then b4 and i started exercising

Good job and good luck!

Been a while and don't know if we can post several times about stuff, but I'm fully able to run a mile and a half and my physique has grown (along with my self confidence.) Already gained 10 pounds and can feel more energy in my body; it feels good to exercise.

P.S. JAKACHAN other than the rock climbing you do is there any other physical training you're committed to? Want to find new things to add to my routine.

Started cleaning up around the house, fixing up broken furniture and cleaning year-old messes around the workshop and garage. I can only put in a couple hours a day into it due to allergies but things are looking up rather nicely.

Started running and lifting again too; sleep schedule's still a mess though.

staying away from people who can lower my self-esteem; accepting people; trying to feel less detached even tho it's a bit hard (cos some days I think that it's better to be rather detached and distant. people are so fake anyway); and opening up to people when I could

-Seren- wrote: 576q3i

staying away from people who can lower my self-esteem; accepting people; trying to feel less detached even tho it's a bit hard (cos some days I think that it's better to be rather detached and distant. people are so fake anyway); and opening up to people when I could

this is so inspiring, and its true ppl are fake . soooo fake

Sakura_rocks wrote: 41y6e

-Seren- wrote: 576q3i

staying away from people who can lower my self-esteem; accepting people; trying to feel less detached even tho it's a bit hard (cos some days I think that it's better to be rather detached and distant. people are so fake anyway); and opening up to people when I could

this is so inspiring, and its true ppl are fake . soooo fake

not all of them, ofc.

I've been keeping myself busy. constantly working on what I've learnt and applying it to my own projects.

Little update for me:

I have still been in California and actually extended my trip to an entire month. I have also decided once this trip ends to move back and will be driving back to California with all my stuff coming next week. I will be pursuing a career in photography and film and will be attempting to become sponsored by one of my favorite climbing companies. Everything is going well and falling into place!

CalignoBot wrote: 304v5n

I got a job at a grocery store (primarily to start paying on the student loan bills) and have been focusing almost entirely on making sure my coworkers and managers have as positive an opinion as possible about me. Primarily, I've been trying to improve communication in my department and become a that people can rely on since... our department is notorious for having people leave or get forcibly kicked out within two months of them ing. One side effect of working here is that I'm also actually gaining social skills since I never talked to anyone during high school.

I'm really damn glad I had the foresight to do this, since I was made aware of a future job opportunity that can finally get me out of that horrific work environment. Both of the managers I had worked under are pretty much guaranteed to give a full positive review of me when asked, and I have a couple other professional references from my coworkers that can point out that the strong points of my personality align perfectly with what they're looking for. On top of that, I have three people within the company I'm shooting for that can do the same thing. My resume is already completely done and ready to roll, so I basically only have to worry about making some kind of fatal mistake in an interview because I'm basically set.

Just having that job instead of my current one would improve my life drastically. Even discounting better pay and more benefits, pretty much everything is better. The hours are consistent (my current job is nowhere near consistent; I have times where I close the department at 9PM and have to be there at 7AM 2 days later), the work environment is calmer and ive (constant stress about having to multitask various things while also worrying about having to help the front end at my current job), the dress code is incredibly lax (I walked to work in the company's 'uniform', which is basically winter clothes; SUMMER IS FUN), I sit for most of the day (it's hard to walk after most shifts since I work 9 hours a day; virtually all of it is on my feet), etc. etc.

The only real downside is that I'd be talking to people over a phone, which I don't have the best time doing. |:

Otherwise, I"m a lot more comfortable with where my life is going now than I did a couple months ago. Now I just need to get my motivation back and I'll be set \o/

I just performed, on stage (actually not, the stage was too small for the group I'm in, so we decided not to perform on it). And I spontaneously talked to people I don't know during the orientation period.

I got the fresh start that I want in university and I'm not going to waste it. And I also want a girlfriend ;_;

I learned php the three days ago and immediately used it on a project that was due yesterday.
I really do think that php will really help me later on.

I started to go outside.

I bought some Manga.

JAKACHAN wrote: 701g2l

Little update for me:

I have still been in California and actually extended my trip to an entire month. I have also decided once this trip ends to move back and will be driving back to California with all my stuff coming next week. I will be pursuing a career in photography and film and will be attempting to become sponsored by one of my favorite climbing companies. Everything is going well and falling into place!

I can't wait to be a part of this soon

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1. I decided to not continue school because I couldn't do it anymore.
2. I'll start learning for my drivers license soon, and I'll also start my apprenticeship as stewardess in a few weeks.

I renewed my gym hip and payed for a personal trainer, my body might not be ready for this.

ive stopped smoking for a whole 2 days

I've started to become more open to others at school and left my problems behind in the past and I'm going to follow my life goals!

After getting blocked on Instagram by 8 of my classmates I just decided the best and only decision was to be an asshole just to them...

kirueggy wrote: 2c4k1t

After getting blocked on Instagram by 8 of my classmates I just decided the best and only decision was to be an asshole just to them...

#firstworldproblems

Jordan wrote: 3d2y23

kirueggy wrote: 2c4k1t

After getting blocked on Instagram by 8 of my classmates I just decided the best and only decision was to be an asshole just to them...

#firstworldproblems

I lol'd.

Have not played league for 2 weeks.

Got a haircut for the first time in a year, feels good.

studying, not watching tv for 1 week

Studying a lot :v

More time on studying xD less on anime and gaming </3

i started do deal with a stress, depression and anger issue now.
reading about this forum inspired me to push even harder to fix my problems
thank you JAKACHAN.

Update:

I just started training in a gym with some of my freinds ^^, im going to train and eat healthy stuff, its about time that i leave my cave at home.

My inspiration: Kaneki Ken (Spoiler Alert this picture is from the Tokyo Ghoul manga, and is ahead of the anime series)
Take ur own responsibility, its a little spoiler but still

Finally applied to college and probably gonna start doing sports again

After graduating 4 years ago now things have been progressively going down hill. I didn't get into a program I wanted to go into (Commerce) back in high school so I settled for a different alternative (Economics), that was my first mistake in a long LONG line of mistakes. Going into economics I found something out, I HATED IT! Like I really didn't find any joy or fulfillment in economics. So I made it my goal to get out and do something better. Only problem was I didn't have an action plan or way of getting out. For some reason I thought in my mind that I will just get handed things to me. That's mistake number 2. After then I started wasting year after year trying to "find something better" by doing really nothing. Seeing my friends all graduating, starting their careers, doing what they have a ion for, while I'm still in the same spot "trying" to move on. Years go on and people start to leave one by one, now I'm all alone, well that's what I thought. As those years move on, so does the cost of going to school for nothing. My student debt starts to pile as I'm going no where. Currently I'm about $16,000 in debt so far and to the university, they label me as a 1st year student. Imagine how that feels, having $16Gs in debt being a damn first year student...

A problem I have is not letting people see what's truly going on inside of me. I tell lies to cover up my flaws to maintain a certain image to people. That is mistake number 3. I started telling lies to the people I hold dear to me, my parents, family, girlfriend, friends, almost everyone, just to show that I can deal with things by myself and can be independent. I started getting tangled in my own web of lies that I lost it. People started to find out, people started to get mad at me for lie and I deserve it. Every bit of it I deserve. I broke down, I couldn't handle it any longer. I was hurting the people that mean the universe to me all just to maintain a fake image. Stupid right?

So I started letting people know that I need help, real help and quick. That's where things started to get better for me. At first it didn't seem like it, people still mad that I wasted time doing nothing, but they are honestly there to help me if they really do care about me. So now as I sit at home for this fall semester, I take this moment for fix everything up and get things organized and set. As I work full time at a local McDonald's (been there for 4 years but part time, which I hate!!! Lol) I decided to leave university in general and apply to something that is more suited for me called college. Apply to it at the beginning of September and guess what! I GOT IN!!! Got accepted into computer science, something I dabbled into and actually loved! Come the winter I start school again and this time its a new start!! A brand new me that is ready to change, ready to communicate better with people and to start expanding my horizon. I'm 22, I have my whole life ahead of me. Doesn't matter if the people around me are starting their lives now, everyone goes at it at their own pace and this is my pace!!!


TL:DR version:
I fucked up with school for 4 years and messed around with people. Took some time to step back and look at my situation, to get my shit together and start doing what I love to do. Keep people close, people that care will always have your back.

Weez wrote: 395o29

Wall of text

Good job on writing a lot of text, Good luck.

I wish there was a way too read this quickly.

I finally managed to put effort in my exams (wrote 4 to 6,5 pages in each - aside from English and Swedish, all the exams were essay-only), will see the results in 2 weeks + some days. Guess I should be stoked. New semester started on Thursday, I hope I will do just as well or even better this time, despite being rather lonely and abandoned at school, not going to let that dampen my spark, no damn way. I guess there's always the chance for making new friends, too.

Cut down on smoking and plan to quit for new years...

Osu :3

Studying and more errands
Must work hard :<

being lazy.

A lot of you know that I'm a pretty pessimistic person, and a mad perfectionist. I let one single mistake get me down, and I beat myself up about every mistake for ages on end. Bad test results, being terrible in P.E no change there, getting something wrong... all of those things make me sad. When I look back on myself, I just think how pathetic I am.

Well, I've taken something to heart that my teacher (who I've known since middle school) said to me a while ago: "Leave your pessimistic self behind at the old school, and embrace the optimistic light of this new school!"
Although I have been failing to reach this, after having a fairly bad day, I've decided to be a bit more determined about achieving one goal. To eliminate my pessimism for GOOD. I need to stop saying I'm stupid and labelling myself like that.

I've set goals for myself at the gym and today (after years of wishing) i was finally able to do a muscle up. I did 2. I haven't felt this good since i don't know when, its a feeling that doesn't come around anymore. Made me happy ^_^

Started Studying for test more often now

studying more

Ichara wrote: 65l5v

studying more

Drake_Infinite wrote: 5t3m66

Started Studying for test more often now

That's cool guys People say "I don't know how to do math" or "How am I supposed to understand this weird biological process with all these technical ", but that's because they never have tried studying before.
It might not become "Dang, this is so easy I can do this while sleeping"-level-easy (Though with enough studying that is possible for sure!), but it will help A LOT more than doing nothing and agonizing/running.

CoolChris wrote: m2m1k

I've set goals for myself at the gym and today (after years of wishing) i was finally able to do a muscle up. I did 2. I haven't felt this good since i don't know when, its a feeling that doesn't come around anymore. Made me happy ^_^

Every (second) day 2 muscle ups, and later this month it becomes 3 muscle ups. Then 4 and 5... by 2015 you might be able to hit 10! It's all about not giving up and appreciating the small successes like you're already doing. The feeling is amazing and it can be incredibly fun to see yourself improving.

I started out doing 10 pushups and 20 bycicle crunches every day. Few weeks later I did 15 pushups, 25 crunches => ... . Now I'm at 25 pushups and 35 crunches and it's hellofalot rewarding to see my physique looking better on top of being stronger!!
Just keep on going and it WILL be worth it

Magihoenix wrote: 4725l

Ichara wrote: 65l5v

studying more

Drake_Infinite wrote: 5t3m66

Started Studying for test more often now

That's cool guys People say "I don't know how to do math" or "How am I supposed to understand this weird biological process with all these technical ", but that's because they never have tried studying before.
It might not become "Dang, this is so easy I can do this while sleeping"-level-easy (Though with enough studying that is possible for sure!), but it will help A LOT more than doing nothing and agonizing/running.

yeah very true ~

Ilfri-chan wrote: 204fa

Cut down on smoking and plan to quit for new years...

I wish I had your motivation to cut it as well.

TheNekoNextDoor wrote: 113m2q

A lot of you know that I'm a pretty pessimistic person, and a mad perfectionist. I let one single mistake get me down, and I beat myself up about every mistake for ages on end. Bad test results, being terrible in P.E no change there, getting something wrong... all of those things make me sad. When I look back on myself, I just think how pathetic I am.

Well, I've taken something to heart that my teacher (who I've known since middle school) said to me a while ago: "Leave your pessimistic self behind at the old school, and embrace the optimistic light of this new school!"
Although I have been failing to reach this, after having a fairly bad day, I've decided to be a bit more determined about achieving one goal. To eliminate my pessimism for GOOD. I need to stop saying I'm stupid and labelling myself like that.

You know, I really love your teacher for saying that.
I tell this to you from my own experience, I, too, am a perfectionist. Everything I do has to be on point. Be it group work or sports, you can be damn sure when your whole team is trolling, I'll be that one 1,68m asian guy who still tries to turn it around on his own (the sport aspect still hasn't change, I'm a tryhard through and through). That doesn't sound so bad does it?
But when it comes to things like test or , in my case, relapsing (Masturbating even though you set yourself the goal not to) and you beat yourself up over that, it really is not gonna help!
The first and most important step is to forgive yourself. Of course in retrospect you realize all you've done wrong, how you could have done that and that better. But it's in the past, and for most things which happened in the past they remain unchangable. If you can change it - do it, if not - don't fret over it. That also applies to things where you slipped up in the past and you can't help it in the present moment.
Just the second most important step is that you learn from those mistakes. Maybe even write it down - "On my next test, I will score 100 points/an A/a 1. But to do that, I need to study"

For every mistake you do, forgive yourself, then change yourself so you don't repeat the same mistake. It's still like being a perfectionist - a unique characteristic that you can't change from one day to the other (surely if you genuinely want to change you can though) - but with forgiving yourself. And with those two attributes, you're really set out for life

Magihoenix wrote: 4725l

TheNekoNextDoor wrote: 113m2q

A lot of you know that I'm a pretty pessimistic person, and a mad perfectionist. I let one single mistake get me down, and I beat myself up about every mistake for ages on end. Bad test results, being terrible in P.E no change there, getting something wrong... all of those things make me sad. When I look back on myself, I just think how pathetic I am.

Well, I've taken something to heart that my teacher (who I've known since middle school) said to me a while ago: "Leave your pessimistic self behind at the old school, and embrace the optimistic light of this new school!"
Although I have been failing to reach this, after having a fairly bad day, I've decided to be a bit more determined about achieving one goal. To eliminate my pessimism for GOOD. I need to stop saying I'm stupid and labelling myself like that.

You know, I really love your teacher for saying that.
I tell this to you from my own experience, I, too, am a perfectionist. Everything I do has to be on point. Be it group work or sports, you can be damn sure when your whole team is trolling, I'll be that one 1,68m asian guy who still tries to turn it around on his own (the sport aspect still hasn't change, I'm a tryhard through and through). That doesn't sound so bad does it?
But when it comes to things like test or , in my case, relapsing (Masturbating even though you set yourself the goal not to) and you beat yourself up over that, it really is not gonna help!
The first and most important step is to forgive yourself. Of course in retrospect you realize all you've done wrong, how you could have done that and that better. But it's in the past, and for most things which happened in the past they remain unchangable. If you can change it - do it, if not - don't fret over it. That also applies to things where you slipped up in the past and you can't help it in the present moment.
Just the second most important step is that you learn from those mistakes. Maybe even write it down - "On my next test, I will score 100 points/an A/a 1. But to do that, I need to study"

For every mistake you do, forgive yourself, then change yourself so you don't repeat the same mistake. It's still like being a perfectionist - a unique characteristic that you can't change from one day to the other (surely if you genuinely want to change you can though) - but with forgiving yourself. And with those two attributes, you're really set out for life

Thank you! Although I have been having a bad time lately and failing to reach my little goal there, I'm going to make the push.
My first target: this maths assessment I'm scared about. I'll go in, in a great mood, and feeling like I can succeed.

Magihoenix wrote: 4725l

CoolChris wrote: m2m1k

I've set goals for myself at the gym and today (after years of wishing) i was finally able to do a muscle up. I did 2. I haven't felt this good since i don't know when, its a feeling that doesn't come around anymore. Made me happy ^_^

Every (second) day 2 muscle ups, and later this month it becomes 3 muscle ups. Then 4 and 5... by 2015 you might be able to hit 10! It's all about not giving up and appreciating the small successes like you're already doing. The feeling is amazing and it can be incredibly fun to see yourself improving.

I started out doing 10 pushups and 20 bycicle crunches every day. Few weeks later I did 15 pushups, 25 crunches => ... . Now I'm at 25 pushups and 35 crunches and it's hellofalot rewarding to see my physique looking better on top of being stronger!!
Just keep on going and it WILL be worth it

Thank you for the motivation! And funny how you say 10, because that was the new goal i've set for myself, I must be able to do 10 in a row in order for it to be accomplished. Never give up, never say you can't, because when i started out lifting 10 lbs i was laughed at. Who's laughing now, when i bench 205 lbs 4 times and i only weigh 132 lbs. You should see the looks on peoples faces, it fuels me to do more, keep staring at me, keep looking at someone who is short but able to do so much. They don't know that feel, they only know how to judge you, and look down upon you. I say F them and keep being yourself. let them stare, let them know that they wont ever be able to get to the level im at. I'm so glad i signed up, i was weak and pathetic before, thinking of why im such a loser. But gym made me realize how strong i can become. Even when im alone, i know im strong, i can see it, others can see it.

Thank You.

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Ilfri-chan wrote: 204fa

Cut down on smoking and plan to quit for new years...

I wish I had your motivation to cut it as well.

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Good luck bro. What everyone else can do, you can do too.

Here you can find a few youtubers who I hope will help you, since they could also help me.
https://www.youtube.com//Kemetprince1/videos
https://www.youtube.com//elliottsaidwhat/featured
https://www.youtube.com//GoldJacketLuke/videos
Just pick a few or search for videos that interest you by the title. They will help you with smoking, other bad habits, and will surely help you get that motivation from within.

Special mention: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z16vhtjWKL0 - "What is the Single Best Thing You Can Do to Quit Smoking?", a video that really hits the nail where it does the job. And in my opinion teaches a lot of other things, aside from just quit smoking - you should defintely check this out!